For divorcees, from those who have been there

The Positive Divorce was born out of the desire to provide more support for people going through one of the most stressful times of their life.
If you’re getting married, having a baby or buying a house, there is so much information you can read up on to help you make decisions.

More than 40% of marriages end in divorce and yet there are few places to turn that de-complexify a pretty standard process.

We firmly believe that with the right information, you are in a better position to communicate.

With better communication you act with more integrity.
We’re only at the beginning of the journey but our goal is to provide information, support and resources that enable both parties to move on and build new and fulfilling lives.

Rachel

Co-Founder

I got divorced in 2016. It wasn’t how I expected my life to turn out.

I was in my thirties with two small children and I had been too busy juggling them, work and my social life to notice my relationship was disintegrating.

When we started the divorced process I didn’t even know where to begin. I was shell shocked and terrified that my identity, my family and my security was being taken away.

I didn’t know where to turn other than a friend who had recently been through it. I had no money!

I used the solicitor she recommended and luckily, by leaning on the legal advice we each got, as well as financial support from parents, my ex and I managed to pick a way through and reach an agreement that has largely worked.

However, since then, the sheer amount of times I have seen people going through what I went through, trying to make sense of complex advice, at the most stressful time of their lives, inspired us to launch The Positive Divorce.

My favourite piece of advice – getting divorced is awful, being divorced is pretty awesome. We’re here to help you find out the facts, so you can collaborate as much as possible to find an outcome that will leave you with integrity and a future you can face.

Andy

Co-Founder

Getting divorce is never easy, perhaps you’ve been told it’s over or you’re the one telling someone else, it’s always a little ‘what’s next’ When I was told I was getting divorced, the kids were 6 and 9, I didn’t have many people in my circle of friends that had gone through this before, I spent time reading various articles, much of which was either very dry legal content or very emotionally charged content written on parenting sites. I wanted to hear from people that sat in the middle, how am I going to deal with this situation in the best way I could, sure life isn’t perfect, I will make mistakes, but what are the things I should be considering in this new situation I found myself in. There’s lots to consider, financial changes, legal things to work through, your own well being and any kids you might have. A good friend of mine talks about ‘collateral damage’ in a relationship, we had simply grown apart over a number of years and forgotten how to communicate with each other, everyone’s situation is different, there are so many reasons as to why you’ve ended up here.

We want to provide you with information that will support you to get to a position where you think ‘I can live with that’. The TPD offers practical advice and a balanced view from people that have been there, whether it’s taking the first step, telling the kids or finding some reassurance within our real stories that it will be alright in the end.

Rachel

Co-Founder

I got divorced in 2016. It wasn’t how I expected my life to turn out.

I was in my thirties with two small children and I had been too busy juggling them, work and my social life to notice my relationship was disintegrating.

When we started the divorce process, I didn’t even know where to begin. I was shell shocked and terrified that my identity, my family and my security were being taken away.

I didn’t know where to turn other than to a friend who had recently been through it. I had no money!

I used the solicitor she recommended and, luckily, by leaning on the legal advice we each got, as well as financial support from our parents, my ex and I managed to pick a way through and reach an agreement that has largely worked.

However, since then, the sheer amount of times I have seen people going through what I did, trying to make sense of complex advice at the most stressful time of their lives, inspired us to launch The Positive Divorce.

Andy

Co-Founder

Getting divorced is never easy – perhaps you’ve been told it’s over or you’re the one telling someone else. It’s always a little ‘What’s next?’

When I was told I was getting divorced, the kids were six and nine, and I didn’t have many people in my circle of friends who had gone through this before. I spent time reading various articles, much of which was either very dry legal content or very emotionally charged content written on parenting sites.

I wanted to hear from people who sat in the middle – how am I going to deal with this situation in the best way I can? Sure, life isn’t perfect, I will make mistakes, but what are the things I should be considering in this new situation I’ve found myself in? There’s lots to consider, financial changes, legal things to work through, your own wellbeing and that of any kids you might have.

A good friend of mine talks about ‘collateral damage’ in a relationship. My ex-partner and I had simply grown apart over a number of years and forgotten how to communicate with each other. Everyone’s situation is different – there are so many reasons as to why you’ve ended up here.

We want to provide you with information that will support you to get to a position where you think, ‘I can live with that’.

The Positive Divorce offers practical advice and a balanced view from people who have been there, whether it’s taking the first step, telling the kids, or finding some reassurance within our real-life stories that it will be alright in the end.

For divorcees, from those who have been there

Rachel

Andy

Rachel

Andy

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